Not Linear but
Disruptive
My Dad died, a victim of Alzheimer’s as did his Dad before
that. Both lived well into their 90s. I have wondered all these years if the
same thing would happen to me. I’m not sure I am condemned to Alzheimer’s; what
I do know is I keep meticulous records about everything that happens in my
life. I am a journalist and a journalism teacher, so I have notes…some
old-style, on pen and paper, though increasingly on laptops and phones.
But that’s a digression. What I want to share is a concern
that Alzheimer’s is a little understood condition. I refuse to call it a
disease because there is simply no treatment. My intuitive grasp of the
condition is it means you have no shared memories and therefore no friends or
relatives. As such, the Alzheimer’s patient is denied nostalgia.
I am a huge fan of nostalgia and my life has been spent
tracking and befriending people I knew as a child and beyond. So the initial
rush was fine…we met or conversed on email and various other social media
platforms…and I, for one, was delighted. In many cases, we even had several
occasions to meet personally. Then reality set in…after the initial rush, the
connect fizzled. Nostalgia is like a third-world currency…it fades soon enough.
After all these years, when I made it a mission to get in touch
with old friends, I have come to realize a drink and dinner is great fun with
people from the past…there is really nothing beyond that. So you share the old
school tie, the shared neighborhood and the pranks and some old stories that
can be told once, maybe twice. Beyond that, there is no connect…everyone has
their own lives
So fine, nostalgia can only go far. But it’s made me
think…when I was born in Surat, then lived on Juhu Beach, Warden Road, Byculla
Bridge, Ahmadabad, Baroda, Athens, Cincinnati, Chicago and then finally Delhi…all
these lives I have tried to understand as seamless…a temporal progression…as in
the history books we were taught in schools. Perhaps they weren't.
I now have come to understand that continuum is simply a
timeline construct put on our lives. Fact is in Surat, Bombay, Ahmadabad,
Baroda, Athens, Cincinnati, Chicago, I lived in different worlds. Increasingly,
I am beginning to challenge the connective geometry of space and time. In the
end, these phases of my life may not be a natural progression. These
experiences are not unified in a single historical narrative; that life may be an agglomerate of experiences that have nothing to do with each
other and that you are the only common factor.
Changes that take place in a human life, both internally and
externally, are huge. I. for one, seem to have nothing in common with the
four-year-old growing up on Juhu Beach. As such, our lives are really not a
smooth progression from birth to death.
Not to get too esoteric, the point I want to make is all of
us have disjointed lives, especially those who have the chance for mobility. I
can remember going to a village in Gujarat with my friend from Chicago. What
was most interesting he met a friend in the bazaar, who ran a kiosk and offered
us a free Coke. This is someone he grew up with; my friend went on to become an
influential doctor in Chicago but his buddy, like his family before him, still
ran a small shop…the past (my friend’s) running into the present (his
friend’s); different as night and day; today and yesterday.
I am no philosopher but I am increasingly convinced that
work needs to be done to question, if not challenge, the assumption that
individual lives are a serial progression from birth to death. My life from the
1950s onward has changed so dramatically, it takes old songs, movies and
photographs to make it hold together.
The idea that it is a single life, a single person that
journeys from birth to death is worth questioning. The links between the
various phases are man-made; there is continuity in empirical terms. Just
looking at my own experiences, I can see that a linear framework does not
adequately describe my life.
In the decades I have lived on this planet, I have seen
changes from where I wrote on a slate with chalk to a holder dipped in ink to a
fountain pen to a ballpoint pen to a typewriter to a computer to a phone; from 78
rpm records on a crank-operated record player to an Ipod; from copious “hard
copy” files to cloud storage. The
changes are disruptive in the sense they presaged completely new ways of doing
things.